Thirty-five seconds becomes a lifetime

caines | 1/17/2013, 4:30 a.m.

Three years after the earthquake in Haiti loved ones are still trying to heal. Many Haitians paused to reflect upon the 35-second earthquake that decimated their country and claimed hundreds of thousands of lives. Evelina, 48, is one of those people who still grieves on a national and personal level. She lost her husband of 12 years in the quake. He was buried alive and died on Thursday, three days after tragedy struck. Evelina recounts before the earthquake she went to Haiti often and it was easy to make a life in Haiti then. I never wanted to stay in Miami for too long, she said. I had every intention to go back to Haiti. But she remained in Miami while her husband opted to stay in Haiti and work. Whenever I and the boys needed anything, I just called and my husband would send money right away, she said. Life was great then. Now, Evelina, is a single mother who is raising her two sons alone her dreams of migrating back to Haiti have been crushed. Evelinas reality currently consists of chronic unemployment and poverty. When asked how she feels emotionally, tears began to well up in her eyes. She looked away to gather her thoughts. She says that she and her sons are still traumatized by the ordeal. As we sat together in her living room, she said her oldest child doesnt like it when she talks about the earthquake. She knows he deeply misses his father. Together she and her sons have gone to counseling and theyre dealing with their loss one day at a time. For some the earthquake is something they recall once a year. But for Evelina and her boys, they live with it every day. Lutze B. Segu is a Haitian-American blogger for the FeministGriote.com and is a graduate of Barry University with a Masters in Social Work. She lives in Miami. By Lutze B. Segu