Share pain of losing a child to violence

caines | 5/9/2013, 5:30 a.m.

Every time Arleen White hears of another murder of a young person in the neighborhood. It takes her back to 10 years ago, when she was in the same predicament as that childs mother, and she was robbed of her 15-year-old son, Anthony White. Anthony was in the comfort of his own home at 1 a.m. on an earlier March morning, when a robber broke into his home and shot him, while entering his home. The robber was only 14 years old. White said, she cant get over losing her son, she is merely able to deal with it a little better. It was only a week ago, when she cried while thinking about Anthony, who would have been 25 had he still been alive today. She wondered what he would be doing with his life at this point in time, had he still been alive. Would he have had his own family by now? There are other times when shes shopping and clothes remind her of her son, and she wonders if he would have liked them. Its not a grief that you would wish on your worst enemy, she said, about the death of Anthony. Anthony was a good kid, who didnt get in trouble in school and never got suspended. He was apart of the football team at Miami Northwestern Senior High. Although sometimes White still becomes angry while thinking of her son being murdered, she still knows that its important to stay strong for her other eight children. She said in order for her and her husband to hold the family together, they stay firm, showing love and attention. The hurt that she has experienced with the lost of her son has encouraged her to get involved into several anti-violence campaigns throughout the community, join forces with other mothers who have lost their children and start a scholarship fund in honor of Anthony. Thats something Ive done to keep the memory of him alive, White said. For local activist, Queen Brown, its not hard to celebrate Mothers Day, but she finds it challenging. She begins the day by honoring Evieton, her deceased son, by visiting his grave at the cemetery and placing flowers on the base of his tombstone. It makes me feel in my own little way like I celebrated him, she said. He was shot and killed in 2006, and since his death, Brown has become an outspoken anti-violence advocate and public speaker. She started Violence Intervention and Prevention Services, Inc., an organization that responds to the mothers and families who have been affected by violence. She said she was able to have peace and move forward because of her faith in God and helping other families. She added that some of the most powerful movements were created because of a death, such as the death of Jesus. Brown said she grieved with her other three children, so that they could all get through. They went to church, counseling, different cycles of grief and cried together. We embraced each other because we realized that all of us were hurting. All of us felt pain, she added. God has made us closer and made us stronger. Please read the stories of the other mothers who have lost their children on www.miamitimesonline.com. By Malika A. Wrightmwright@miamitimesonline.com