Part III: Why are Black women so angry?
Black men offered their perspective during intense town hall discussion
Erick Johnson | 5/1/2014, 9 a.m.
Why are Black women so angry?
One Black male believes they are unappreciated at home and in the workplace.
Another says Black women are overwhelmed with pain and stress from life and bad relationships.
Rapper-turned author and writer Luther Campbell just doesn’t know what to say.
“That’s a deep question, “he said. “I really don’t know.”
But about 150 people, the majority of them women, came to tell Campbell and four other professional Black men why women are so angry during a lively and heated conversation last Thursday at Freedom Hall, located at 8400 NW 25th Ave.
Sponsored by the Urban League of Greater Miami, the discussion was the third and final installment of the on the topic. The discussion was led by a panel of professional, well-dressed Black men who gave their insight and perspective to a packed room of Black women who were single, divorced or in bad relationships. Some women who have been through it all came to share words of wisdom on how they found life and happiness again.
But the question Black women in the audience wanted to know was how can they rid themselves of such much anger?
Our first guest, Lionel Lightbourne is a Black, handsome, well-dressed and articulate community outreach care coordinator for the Belafonte Talcolcy Center. Lightbourne said Black women are so angry because they do not receive enough respect for their hard work in the office and at home.
“They’re under-appreciated both professionally and personally,” said Lightbourne who is happily married with children. “We have yet to value Black women for what they are worth.”
“It’s a combination of depression, regret and hurt,” said Dr. Steve Gallon III, chief executive officer for Tri-Star Leadership Inc., an organization that seeks to improve educational opportunities in urban schools. “There’s a perception that Black women have to shoulder the burden of raising and providing for kids after being left alone. They should have a reasonable expectation for Black men to be with them through those hard times.”
Gallon, the father of two daughters, is single. He is not actively pursuing a relationship but, he gave helpful advice to women who have grown weary in finding a permanent mate as their biological clocks tick away.
“Don’t seek a man, but seek the other Man from above, where he won’t hurt you or leave you with regrets,’“ he said. “Be anxious over nothing. If that’s the hand life has dealt you as a single mother, then be okay with that.”
“If your man strays, let him go. He will wake up one day and realize what he has done wrong,” said another guest panelist, Brian Dennis, a community activist with the Circle of Brotherhood.
Joining in on the discussion was another guest panelist, Brother Lyle Grandison, who spoke with eloquent words of wisdom.
“When it comes to men and women, we tend to skip over the friendships, jump into companionships then move on to kinships and before you know it, we’re in a battleship,” Grandison said. “Hurt people tend to hurt other people. Let the healing begin inside before getting into a relationship.”